A few lucky sperms, who get Unconditional Love !

This is to all the sperm owners and those sperms that were not wasted and are alive today as their beloved parents decided to forgo some part of their freedom and luxury to raise them and bring them to this world!

Before you read any further, please read the link below to get another perspective – https://ctulika.wordpress.com/2014/01/03/why-do-couples-decide-to-have-kids-across-the-globe/

Now, after that thought, many of you might agree to it, many might strongly disagree! After writing that piece, I felt that it reflects one side of the coin and it isn’t a fair representation of the whole truth. Undeniably, human beings are selfish! But are they selfish in all roles they play in life? Are they selfish as Parents? Could be! But, there is this whole deal about calling parents selfish… you might be looked upon as someone who is ill-behaved , has no values, no respect for elders, no etiquettes etc.

Parents can be selfish, at times for themselves and mostly for their children. The over rated unconditional love holds and demonstrates its true importance when used in context of mother and child! I would agree!

Couples might decide to have a baby for various reasons, but when they actually get to hold their  own child, even the ones who have hated kids through their life, whined at the thought of sharing a seat in flight next to a child, looking at a child in movie hall and cringing about it, giving them nasty looks when their parents are not around, just running away from attending family function where children could be found, have encountered an absolute connection and a new meaning to their life after that small little addition in their crazy world!

They might not have saved enough for their own vacation or bought best clothes for themselves, but try their best do provide all of it to their little one- be it education, sports, holidays, school trips, fancy clothes or gadgets. They might want support in old age, but they love to care about the crawling baby now, and are dying to see the child walk as soon as possible. They find support in the love of that child and want them to achieve the best in the world! A flurry of emotions and aspirations arise for the kid. To see him/her excel in each sphere (probably also to get that champion feeling when they get to brag about it to other parents ;))

To all the Parents who have raised kids, you might think you could have done more, but I am sure you would have done things more than you could afford or were permitted by your capacity. Your love and support to your children is incontestable and perhaps the only love which grows with time.

P.S. – A happy child only adds to their Parents happiness and vice versa! I do agree!

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Love appified!

This valentine, what are the new customs in which gen-Y is going to celebrate the day of love? They are fast paced, driven by technology; Flowers, chocolates, soft romantic songs are cliché to them. They are constantly driven by something innovative, more energized thought and action.

In the last ten years, technology via computers, pagers, mobile phones has helped the lovers incredibly, particularly mobiles steered many love stories. They have always kept tremendous discounts on calls and messages to lure the ‘in love’ young generation. Now, a step ahead, love seems to be appified. With touch phones, your love texts are just a touch away with every possible emoticon and sticker. From the traditional flowers, cards and chocolates to the bold and trendy teddy, hugs, kisses, all imaginable and unimaginable emoticons are available on bbm, watsapp, wechat, line and several other apps.

Love Appified!
Love Appified!

Thumb generation expresses all their love by touch of fingers unlike earlier times where the guy waited long hours for a glance, wrote poetry, sang a song to impress the girl. Today, a smart phone with cool apps can do all the jazz to impress the lass.
A couple says watsapp is a part of our love life. Boy says “We even fight on watsapp in spite of the fact that we are sitting in the same room”. Girl added “I send him angry emoticons, when annoyed.” Apps are helping long distance relationships by letting couples share real time details and pictures and other updates (Free of cost is of course the trigger here). One of my friends, in his late 20s, told me that he is planning to send romantic voice messages to his wife on V-day to make it special. I am sure the Awww-generation would give thumbs up to the idea!

Apart from this, there is a new range of gifts that is being circulated. Now days, gifts are more centric to technology, something like – a lipstick or a superman shaped pen drive, smart phone or even a jazzy smart phone cover. I wonder if in the 90s people gifted VCRs to each other or a Yashika camera cover?!). Rather, it was more about gifting clothes, shoes and jewelry.
It gives an impression that expensive gadgets are soon to substitute the diamonds era. Mothers might not agree to this. But new age girls, following Priyanka chopra would nod to the love for technology. They too are driven by technology as much as the boys #GirlThingToo!

Love in the time of technology is definitely getting a new definition this valentine day.
Don’t you dare single out the singles… They are going to surely love themselves more on this V-day and enjoy the solitary love & happiness by clicking more selfies and uploading them on Instagram, perhaps with a hash tag #happyvalentinedaytome

Technology is only aiding love, be it to your partner or yourself.

Go ahead, plan out what you want to do for your beloved on this tech valentine day or how you want to make the best single V-day, out with yourself and your best gadgets.

P.S. – Love stays; medium might change from unsaid words to notes to letters to chats to emails to calls to messages to apps and now to emoticons.

Twitter handle : ctulika

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Breakfast Buffet @Kamat Lokaruchi

Mysore highway it is! Yes the non-bumpy road near Bangalore is called Mysore Highway! All those who know that Bangalore has bad traffic, let me tell you, the pain of heavy traffic is aggravated by jerky roads i.e. random speed breakers which suddenly pop up from nowhere in front of your car. It’s not about driving but driving you crazy with irritation on Bangalore roads.

But, nevertheless all those who love speed, long rides and random stopovers, there is an escape, you must hit the road early morning in nice weather and savor yourself to a nice south Indian breakfast buffet at Kamat Lokaruchi.

Kamat is a vegetarian south Indian joint open 24*7 at Mysore Highway. It’s a huge open air complex, with ordinary but clean seating arrangements amidst greenery. It does not have sophisticated frills to it, but a warm welcoming feel when you enter.

FYI – there are two Kamat’s on this road. Please be sure that you visit the correct one – While going from Bangalore to Mysore the original Kamat comes onto your right hand side.

The breakfast menu is elaborate enough for good stomach fill. You may start with fresh fruit juice; I loved the black grape juice which was on the menu that day (It can be different as per season and owners discretion). I doubt that it will be a favorite of many reading, as grape juice in general needs an acquired taste. More in the fruit health zone, they had mentioned cut fruits in the menu, which turned out to be – Papaya. The world is on a cost cutting spree.

Moving on to the actual south Indian food, it comprised of  Moode idli, Vada, Masala dosa, Upma, Akki roti and Rice of the day.

Buffet! :)

Buffet! 🙂

Moode idli (from Mangalore cuisine) is a cylindrical shaped idli wrapped in a kedige (screw pine) leaf for aroma & flavor, it is first unwrapped, then crushed to bring it in rice format, sambar is poured over and consumed with hand. (I am personally not very fond of sambar, rather have the idli with chutneys, but a majority of people love to eat moode idli and sambar)!

If you are a vada fan, you will be pleased as they serve fresh, hot and crispy vadas which you can relish with coriander- coconut or tomato chutney on the side.

Masala dosa

Masala dosa

Next, is one my favorites – Masala Dosa, triangle shaped, hot-crisp, aroma of pure ghee is served to you and you can easily have 2-3 for that substantially satisfying good food mood! (That’s when your stomach tells you to smile)

They also have the most regular dish which is widespread in the nation, Upma. It is a well-cooked regular upma, which can be happily enjoyed by those fond of it.

A different breakfast dish among all is Akki roti, it is a known dish in Karnatka, made of crushed rice which is kneaded well, mixed with small cut vegetables of your choice and sesame seeds. It resembles a very thin uttapam or a salty vegetable pan cake. It is best savored, when served hot.  (At many homes, it is traditionally made like a plain chapatti of kneaded rice and consumed with sesame chutney).

Rice of the day is a regular rice dish; it is indeed tasty and can be enjoyed with vegetable raita (vegetable curd). All those looking forward to a masaledar (spicy) brunchy breakfast, go for it! Carb full stomach to keep u going for a long drive ahead J

In sweets, they had Jalebi and Kesari bath, Both of them were well made and could be aptly appreciated after completing a light satisfying south Indian meal.

I am sure the tea/coffee fanatics are still looking for more. Yes, they definitely had both options and indeed coffee here refers to filter coffee #undoubtedly.

Vada and masala dosa are the stars on the menu!

All this in just Rs 120/ person is quite a steal on the highway!

P.S. – Make it a happy weekend morning in nice weather, let your taste buds enjoy a south Indian titillation.

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10 Benefits of not marrying whom you love!

1. You get a chance to undo stupidity

2. You get to avoid lame fights

3. You get to love double

4. You are already mature to handle the relationship

5. You can act mysterious

6. You are not burdened by before marriage promises

7. You have the freedom not to meet the expectations

8. You are one up with your parents

9. You can always say ‘yu hota to kya hota…(‘what if this would have happened…’)

10. You never get to test the waters- it’s eternal.

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P.S.- Love for a reason and let the reason be love 🙂 !! (Bee +ve, doesn’t sting)

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Think before you give life to a sperm!

This is to all couples old and young, planning to have or already titled as Parents. You brought a life into this world, make sure you guide the child, and not impose your ideas. Give freedom of choice and thoughts.

Why do couples decide to have kids across the globe?

1. They are selfish
– For improving Household income
– For support in old age
– Reproduction as solution to their personal/household problems
– Virtually fulfilling their dreams, failures
– Who will inherit my property?

2. They love kids

3. Everybody around is doing that and that’s the custom!

I totally agree with first thought, many who decide to be parents are selfish. Let’s start from bottom of the pyramid, we all would agree that low income households produce kids to have more earning hands for the household; they barely care about the new born and his future life. They aim at improving their worse off condition by adding another labor force but end up being caught in the vicious circle of poverty.
To the educated set who might be reacting as ‘these people are illiterate and produce 5-6 kids, utter stupidity’. My “dear educated” class irrespective of your economic and financial background let me tell you, you are no better… least you have 3 kids, perhaps more in name of having a boy. Anyhow even if you have 2 of them… did you really think or you were just content that one out of the two is a boy or was it everyone around you having 2 children, so you thought let me fit myself in this social set up by having 2 kids too. Actually, the whole subconscious fear arises when middle age people see their old parents/ grandparents and know that in old age you need support of the young and who better would it be than your own blood. Hence, the decision to have kids is taken (you might choose to disagree but this is a play of our subconscious mind). Poor kid does not know that first he will have to accept favors without his will and then return them later as a duty.
Also, we become selfish when our life is not smooth and we are perturbed by our own relationship, a couple might have their personal frustrations, misunderstandings etc. Now, in our Indian set up, where you can’t take a break (not a divorce is necessary for every tiff now and then), but force yourself to live under the same emotionally burdened scenario, you rather decide to have kids which might or might not really abate your miseries. But, for the time being till the kid grows, you find a better purpose to life.

‘I failed in my life in all that I tried, but now I am married and have kids and I will make sure my kids complete my dreams irrespective of what they want.’ Ah! What a pain to have this feeling and the worse is it’s not intentionally done by parents. But, they take that right, the moment their child is born; and start deciding his/her future in line with their aspirations, and create a parallel world for achieving their dreams through them. To think of it I feel sad for both, the parent and the child.

At last, money keeps us all going and gives us some odd power. In our heads, we definitely feel like a king of our own house. So, why would I want to earn a lot of money? And if I did earn or acquired a lot of money from my parents, it is my moral, social responsibility to pass it on to my children (caveat- lest he goes against my principles, will… in short my rule book… else wo bedakhal hai jaydad se). And, of course, so much money can’t be given to someone who is not your own blood (Naval Tata got lucky).

So all those who love kids, let me warn you… kids do grow up with a mind of their own.  They will not be little and cuddly coo teddy for you forever. And as parents you should let them grow and have their own beliefs. Don’t enforce a life style on them.  There is a lot in this world and they should get a chance to explore and live with the freedom of choice.

Those chained by the customs and herd behavior.  Let’s find our motives too. If you want kids, go ahead but give it a thought. Think about it before you let another soul come alive in this beautiful and not so beautiful world.

I love kids (though it’s a short lived feeling); I love the idea of having kids too. I am sure all couples deciding to take the parent way want to have kids and love them too. All parents want the best for their child and want to love them unconditionally. All I want to put across through this article is that give them their right to freedom and choice of thought & belief. You grew up with some beliefs, share those with them, but don’t enforce upon them.

 The mature set of people known as ‘Parents’ kill the innocence in children and burn their wings by giving them shackles of reserved thoughts (of abiding by so called society). Let them fly with open wings. 

P.S. – Don’t let them say or think ‘I was happy as a sperm, better wasted’!

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Ignorance is bliss!

Oblivious to all, world seems like that beautiful first kiss!

In ignorance, happy is always the state!

The expression isn’t lost,

Words are not hollow,

Every time it seems there is more to come,

the feeling, at present is never numb!

The spirit to fly –  is always  high!

If your spirit is dying,

you cant feel the depth of the vast sea

At times, let it be & hardly care…

Believe… there is a bird…

Look, she might be around,

Disguised, hence, shall  be found!

P.S. – Ignorance is bliss!

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Leh, Ladakh

23rd – 29th August 2013

We were planning a holiday yet again with nothing specific in mind… we virtually went from Kanyakumari to Kashmir and from south pole to north pole … one called for beaches another voice for hills, and you hear resorts, sand dunes, sanctuaries etc for many days… and no one can really recall when did we all say a yes to go to Leh.

I am one of those lucky ones who got a chance to go to one of the most coveted places in the world, Leh, with a bunch of my school friends. But let me tell you this ‘most coveted’ place is not really like a luxury holiday. You just can’t go there assuming you will be high on life in the mountains with your best buddy ‘Beer’ and ‘roasted nuts’ amidst your friends since childhood!

Yes it is beautiful! Of course you get to see mesmerizing scenic beauty. But, it takes a while to acclimatize to the weather there. You have to be cautious for the first two days as you will feel breathless with every little activity you do as little as even breathing ;). The place lets you absorb it and absorbs you in couple of days.

Let me share my travel experience with you to help you get better insights!

Day 1
All excited to see the hills, we start our journey from Delhi at 8.40 am and reached Leh airport with mesmerizing view of ice capped mountains.
First day at Leh is the toughest as one can feel the fatigue even while breathing. You walk 5 steps and you will start breathing heavy.  For first 2 days we felt very different compared to our metro life style.

In hills you have to be early to bed and early to rise! Life as a whole is slow. Life in Leh, particularly near the central market area, is not slow. In fact, it’s all the more happening as the hippie crowd is around, they have set up a whole new world there. But, the locals there and the whole city in general moves slow and leads a simple life.

We reached our hotel around 11am and settled in. We were constantly advised to rest for the whole afternoon so that we can go visit a place called Shanti stupa in the evening. We somewhat adhered to the advice and did so. We headed to Shanti stupa and witnessed the sunset! It had a beautiful view and a peaceful feeling. The calming effect could really make you feel closer to nature and soothe your mind for a few seconds. Though we were gasping for our breath now and then climbing up the Stupa, still we enjoyed this along with feeling with breathlessness after walking every few steps.  Sigh! !

Day 2
We began our journey with utmost enthusiasm, all dressed for day 2. We hit the beautiful roads of Leh… taking us to the outskirts. The mountains, the view, the air, everything could just make you happy then. We could see our route ahead of us… like a clean never ending road which is guiding you through in that moment.

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We first went to a museum called ‘hall of fame’ which described geography and culture of Ladakh and then moved ahead to magnetic hills – exciting part about this hill is that the car moves  on its own at the speed of 10km per hour there. Yes you can shut the engine and your vehicle will move on its own.

Further we halted at a point called Sangam, this is a confluence of river Indus and Beas which amalgamate and further flow to Pakistan. It has a beautiful view during the winters, though summers make the water look all muddy and dark.

Sangam point in Leh!

Sangam point in Leh!

We returned to our hotel in the evening and decided to spend the evening at the market before we begin to unusually eat and sleep early. We took a stroll and went down the bazaar lane exploring the streets there.

Day 3-4
We began our journey to Nubra valley which was about 5 hours away from Leh… loved the view which comprised of mountains and long stretch of roads.
Half way we reached at the height of 18500 feet… Where the wind became chilly and we also witnessed snowfall drizzle which was definitely a high point for me 🙂

Though you get severe headache as you get closer to heights and it stays for about an hour. No one escaped this headache!
We finally reached Hundar (a place near Nubra valley) where we did camel ride. If you are wondering ‘why did these idiots travel so far for a Camel ride?’ Let me tell you these were mongalian camels with two humps that were brought to India by Changez Khan. So that’s what excited us to go this far!

See our smiling faces below:

Mongolian camel ride at Nubra Valley

Mongolian camel ride at Nubra Valley

 Also this place had greenery, really lush green bushes and trees on one side and sand dunes on the other. 6 hours journey became worth it when we did Camel ride and felt the amazing cool breeze on our faces.

We headed to our cottages where we were told that electricity is available for only 3 hours in a day from 7pm – 10pm. And bang on 10pm, electricity gone.

The only thing that you realize is that even today there are so many remote areas which do not have 24 hours electricity supply. #Ddevelopment  #India

Next day, we had to return to Leh. Early morning, most of us fell sick (nausea, vomiting, stomach upset and fever). We managed our journey back to the Hotel and took rest for the whole evening.
Eventually with a dose of medicine with dinner and oxygen cylinder for one friend, the unwell set of people got better!

Before, I head further. I would like to share the itinerary here-

‘Day 1- Shanti stupa, Market; Day 2 – Museum, Gurdwara, Monastery, Mandir, Sangam, Magnetic hills, Monastery; Day 3 – Nubra valley (Monastery, Camel ride Monastery), Day 4 – Return to Leh (Monastery on the way); Day 5 – Pangong lake (enroute Monastery); Day 6 – Return to Leh (Monastery)

Our whole trip comprised of so many monasteries that the thought of visiting a monastery also makes most of us tired. It became Moan-astery for us!

Day 5-6
All set to go to pangong Lake. Yes, we were all set to go for another 4-5 hours journey to go see the beautiful Panong lake, where Pia gets her love Phunsuk Wangdu back, where Anushka Sharma took a dip in bare minimum clothes for ‘Jab tak hain Jaan’!

This was an even beautiful journey, half way when we reached 18,500 feet again our heads pierced with pain. But, a little less as compared to initial days as we were adapting to the city and its climate gradually.

We hired a cycle for the downhill ride amidst the mountains. We started our journey, clicking loads of pictures, chit chatting, listening to music and enjoying the nature around us!

The journey went smooth and we reached Pangong lake. Mesmerized by the beauty of the lake we all were elated and spell bound. The vast stretch of blue-green water in front of the massive mountains below the blue and white sky seemed unbelievable in front of the naked eye!

We just wanted to stay by the lake side and click pictures all the while. We decided to return to the spot in the morning and headed to our amazing tents. I decided to ride the bicycle up to the tents, and it was one of the best moments of my life. Lake on one side, mountains on the other… puddles of spring water on the road with barely any visible soul in reach.

Next morning, 5am, we were waiting for the sunrise, which got shadowed by the clouds! 😦 Still we managed some beautiful pictures of that morning sight! 🙂

Ready, to hit the lake again. What we saw in the evening was nothing compared to the lake in the morning, we could not believe our eyes when we looked at the multi-colored water shining like a diamond, sparkling like wine!

Pangong lake

Pangong lake

We just wanted to stay there and keep clicking through the day! Keeping the trend alive, we did not miss clicking a lot of pictures to remember sweet memories of our trip!

At Pangong Lake!

At Pangong Lake!

Some important facts-

Medicines – Carry loads of medicines!

Most important medicine ‘Diamox’ for altitude sickness; others include – Anti-puking,  for gastric issues, stools, nasal spray, vicks, crocin, aspirin, combiflam.

The hotel would also have a medicine kit and you can always tell them how you are feeling and they will tell which medicine you need!

Toilets –Do not expect proper toilets anywhere while travelling instead drink less water. You will find mobile toilets on the way which are dirty to the core. Believe me you would not want to use them even if your bladder blasts. Boys really have have their way easy! 😡

Food – In Leh, you will manage to get food; do not expect anything specifically very good or authentic. Forget about traditional Indian food from any region. There are some good restaurants but largely you will get cafe’s serving European food! Try your luck!

At the hotel, definitely get your dinner included as hotels serve decent north Indian and south Indian food!

While you are travelling for long hours, carry a lot of light munching stuff. Carry chocolates for instant energy. On the way, mostly you will get Maggie and beverage called ‘black tea’. It is not a usual black tea but a tea made of spices (compared to kava that you get in kashmir), a must have as it will give you a warm and refreshing feeling!

Safest bet is to eat eggs and MAGGIE! You might not get a lot of things of basic needs there, but Nestle made sure that Maggie reaches the remote corners of India. It seems, it is actually a part of their staple diet. I can guarantee for the days you spend there, it will surely be a part of your staple! #Meramaggie

Souvenirs – You will barely get any souvenirs to buy. Most of the things there, are also available in Paharganj, Delhi. #Disheartened

Others

  • Do carry sunglasses, comfortable foot wear (sport shoes), Torchlight, candles, match box.
  • Pre-paid numbers don’t work there!

The plan mushroomed on a chat group of my school friends (about 10 of us J). Let me tell you it’s been 8 years that I completed my schooling. The point why I am giving you this information is not for you to calculate my age but to remind ourselves that plans are made and cancelled a lot of times after so many years but we should still plan in hope of seeing a sunrise in the mountains or a sunset on the beach (yes with beer) with friends once in a while. 

I can just tell you with all the breathless days there, it’s worth it!

P.S. – Mountains shall call again!

 

 

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